it is amazing how strongly the "male is better" narrative has been pushed by women claiming to be feminists. Women should work like men. Women should behave like men. Anything men do must be higher status. This entire way of thinking is so wrong. Your comment about satisfaction is illustrative. Just because men crave casual sex does not mean it is good for them. I would add pornography to that. Men have demons, and they are happiest when they resist them. Men unhinged means more murder, drug addiction, rape and despair.
We would all be so much better off if we worked towards the best goal, instead of imagining that the male default preference is somehow "right." So many of our problems today result from these poor decisions. Our ancestors knew better, yet we insist on relearning mistakes without regard to the costs born by children and and victims. Thank you for writing such a sane, enlightened essay. It was a pleasure to read.
"Instead of teaching men that maybe they should be a little more like women when it comes to sexual activity, we teach women they should be more like men. At the same time, we’re told men are pigs! If that’s the case, then why is the response for women to act more like men when it comes to sex?"
Great article! I think you bring up a really interesting social phenomena, why is it that women think that it would be good to engage in more casual sex like men have traditionally. When men probably shouldn't be engaging in such casual encounters. There are definitely some people that can handle the emotions of casual sex but I doubt that is the majority of people.
I once heard similar advice to what your father gave you, that I thought was good.
"Don't have sex with anyone you wouldn't want to live a life with." Perhaps a touch extreme but I think it drives home the seriousness with which people should probably approach sex.
Hi. You would get along well with Louise Perry, author of The Case Against the Sexual Revolution (fantastic book) and host of the wonderful Maiden Mother Matriarch substack and podcast. She should have you on.
it is amazing how strongly the "male is better" narrative has been pushed by women claiming to be feminists. Women should work like men. Women should behave like men. Anything men do must be higher status. This entire way of thinking is so wrong. Your comment about satisfaction is illustrative. Just because men crave casual sex does not mean it is good for them. I would add pornography to that. Men have demons, and they are happiest when they resist them. Men unhinged means more murder, drug addiction, rape and despair.
We would all be so much better off if we worked towards the best goal, instead of imagining that the male default preference is somehow "right." So many of our problems today result from these poor decisions. Our ancestors knew better, yet we insist on relearning mistakes without regard to the costs born by children and and victims. Thank you for writing such a sane, enlightened essay. It was a pleasure to read.
Thank you for your feedback!
"Instead of teaching men that maybe they should be a little more like women when it comes to sexual activity, we teach women they should be more like men. At the same time, we’re told men are pigs! If that’s the case, then why is the response for women to act more like men when it comes to sex?"
Great article! I think you bring up a really interesting social phenomena, why is it that women think that it would be good to engage in more casual sex like men have traditionally. When men probably shouldn't be engaging in such casual encounters. There are definitely some people that can handle the emotions of casual sex but I doubt that is the majority of people.
I once heard similar advice to what your father gave you, that I thought was good.
"Don't have sex with anyone you wouldn't want to live a life with." Perhaps a touch extreme but I think it drives home the seriousness with which people should probably approach sex.
The consequences of sex are extreme so we think that advice is still solid.
Hi. You would get along well with Louise Perry, author of The Case Against the Sexual Revolution (fantastic book) and host of the wonderful Maiden Mother Matriarch substack and podcast. She should have you on.
Louise Perry is out here doing the work that matters.